Gain the Power: "Get to" over "Have to"
“What we say to ourselves in the privacy of our own minds, matters. It drives our behavior, which drives our destiny, which shapes our world.” Marie Forleo
In our journey through life, the words we choose hold immense power. They shape our perceptions, attitudes, and ultimately, our level of fulfillment and happiness. There are 2 crucial aspects of this linguistic influence
The first lies in our internal dialogue—the conversations we have with ourselves. These inner monologues can either propel us forward or hold us back.
The second is the significance of the words and phrases we repeatedly use and how important they are in establishing how we live our lives.
Today, I'd like to delve into the profound impact that our choice of language has on our perception and attitude. Specifically, I want to explore the contrast between two seemingly simple phrases: "have to" and "get to." This juxtaposition highlights how a subtle shift in language can dramatically alter our outlook on daily responsibilities and life as a whole, fostering a mindset of gratitude rather than obligation.
Consider the difference between saying "I have to go to work" and "I get to go to work." The former implies a sense of begrudging obligation, as if the choice were not yours to make. But when reframed as "I get to go to work," it acknowledges the privilege and opportunity inherent in having employment. It prompts reflection on the blessings of having a job, the ability to sustain oneself and others, and the positive impact of contributing to society.
This shift in perspective applies not only to work but to every aspect of our lives. Whether it's attending school, completing chores, or running errands, changing "have to" to "get to" can transform mundane tasks into meaningful opportunities. It prompts us to recognize the abundance in our lives and approach each activity with a spirit of appreciation and gratitude.
Jeff Johnson, an author and the founder of Explorations Early Learning and Playvolution HQ, talks about have to and get to as lenses.
With I Have To lenses, tasks are seen as obligations, chores, mandated activities, and burdens. An I Have To outlook generates internal resistance.
I Get To lenses, shift things slightly. Tasks that once felt like burdens seem lighter and easier to manage. The internal resistance fades. Obligations feel more like opportunities. With this in mind, I mentally outlined the opportunities I saw through the new lenses.
In the context of business, this change in language holds significant potential. As leaders, fostering a culture of appreciation lays the groundwork for achieving success. When employees perceive their work as a privilege rather than an obligation, the ripple effects are profound. Morale receives a substantial boost, propelling individuals to engage more passionately with their tasks. This heightened engagement translates into a surge in productivity, as employees feel a greater sense of ownership and purpose in their roles. Moreover, the pervasive negativity that often pervades work environments begins to fade away, replaced by an atmosphere brimming with energy and positivity. In such a conducive setting, everyone involved is empowered to thrive and excel, contributing to the overall success and prosperity of the organization. This amazing shift begins by making the people in our organization aware of the impact the words “have to” vs “get to” impact our individual attitudes which in turn effects the collective culture of the organization. Then being intentional with a plan to shift these phrases as well as others that are identified as having the same effects.
Imagine starting each day by expressing gratitude for the opportunities it presents. By replacing "have to" with "get to" in our daily conversations, we not only transform our own mindset but also influence those around us. Our words shape the reality we inhabit, influencing others through our example.
So, let's make a conscious effort to shift our language and perspective. Instead of saying ""I have to" let's embrace "I get to" and watch as our world transforms for the better. Let's choose gratitude, not only in what we say but in how we live each day.
Expect to Win!
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